Before you start saying "it's only a phase" or "you need to get laid", I will tell you that you need to read this before you open your mouths. So quiet down and read.
Asexuality is not a choice, nor an illness. It's a completely valid orientation, and one that I've come to accept as my own. I thought I was straight, and then that I was bisexual, but that just didn't fit how I felt. It took me almost 28 years to realize it. I just don't feel anything when I look at people. I may think someone's objectively attractive, but to come to feel anything physical for that person is just something that doesn't happen. I simply see a person, not a potential mate. I am, story in a nutshell, asexual. I don't like men physically, but I don't like women either. Pure and simple.
Aside from that, and I am talking from experience here, I find the whole concept of sex objectively disgusting. Precisely because I have no interest in how a human body is or looks, as well as me being rather disgusted by how it looks, either anyone else's or even mine (especially mine). The whole idea behind it, plus the pressure that people seem to put over it is another reason. I learned then that it simply has no meaning or interest for me. And let's face it, the whole fluid interchange makes my gag reflex act up.
Unfortunately, a good amount of people refuse to believe it. Even among my relatives and people close to me. Even my doctor looked at me questioningly when I told him I didn't need sex. But that's the way I am, and while a hug or a peck on the lips is okay, even good for me, anything beyond that triggers my asexual side and I will pretty much push anyone away after that. I forgot to mention that while I am close to my friends, I do NOT enjoy having my personal space invaded. I will actively avoid people due to that.
Also, I've had people say "You don't like men? But most of your friends are men, Andrea!" I don't have a problem with having male friends. In fact, I get along better with men than with women because I don't expect them to look at me as a woman. I've been called "one of the guys" by most of my guy friends, and I'm okay with it. Doesn't make me a tomboy (although I am a bit of one), though. Also, due to my laid-back views on things, I've become some sort of gay guy magnet. I don't know what I do or say, but for some reason, people from the LGBT community just seem to feel comfortable near me. I don't mind it, though. I enjoy their company, as not only there's no chance of me ending up rejecting people, but it's just a matter of pure and simple friendship, and I am fiercely protective of my friends. I have a harder time getting along with women, until they realize I am not the bitch they think I am. I fight fair, say things honestly and don't overcomplicate things. I am, without being transexual or a butch, a manly woman. And I am okay with it.
However, my being asexual doesn't mean that I am aromantic. I just happen to need to know a person very well. That's where I come in as a demiromantic. I don't believe in "love at first sight" or in "knowing a person as I date". I can't love something I don't know. Call me old-fashioned if you must, but I trust a very small group of people. And even among those who are my best friends, the chances of me liking someone are very low. It's also thanks to my "bad luck" in love, but that's another story. I need to know someone as a friend before even finding myself in love with that person. That's just the way I am.
But that also means that I am constantly friendzoned. It hurts a lot, but I've come to live with it as it is. Granted, I would like to be in a mutual relationship sometimes, but not only am I extremely picky in my people, I don't think I'd find someone who's like me easily: asexual/demiromantic. So yeah, I dug my own grave.
Still, I am relatively happy the way I am. I have good friends, adorable cats and a good job. And to me, that's what matters the most. So I wear the black white and purple proudly. Asexuality exists. I'm proof of it.